Mother Teresa said one that when you can suffer no more and you surrender there is love. When you love so much that you go beyong suffering there you find the true essence of love. Whilst I admire Mother Teresa enourmously, for the rest of us, who have not developed this capacity for love to the extend that she had I pose a question.
Why are we helping others?
What is our focus?
Do we expect anything back? Truly there is nothing wrong with expecting something back but do we know what that is?
I have thought long and hard about this issue. I used to love helping people, getting involved, using my skills to ‘rescue’ them and show them the ‘way’. I did all of that whilst I took no responsibility for meeting my own needs and making myself happy. This lead to resentment in some occasions or people shunning me out. Now I prefer to go for balance, to play a dance between meeting other people’s needs and meeting my own. After all I have my children to care for and I am blessed with friends, they need me, I need them. I can now say no when needed and know that my friends will understand that this is done from a place of love and respect towards myself. What are your motivations to help people?