I cannot love you unless you love yourself because your lack of self love will block any love coming through. The same applies to trust, kindness, faithfulness, being proud, standing up for yourself and so many other things. I need to practice what I preach, walk the walk and walk the talk that I do. The key is focus and intention. If my sole focus is outwards- always giving to extremes, splashing out on presents; rather than both outwards and inwards. If I give what passes as love only because I need to feel loved myself then I am cheating myself and I am cheating you. Of course this can change from time to time but if there is a balance between outwards and inwards, if my love starts inside of me rather than being sought outside, we stand a much better chance to have a happy and healthy relationship.