Beauty and love come from within. If you love yourself, respect yourself and think well of yourself you attract similar people. It is a lifetime achievement but it works. I did a workshop yesterday and we cleared the past to the let new in so no more resentments and taking responsibility for my own mistakes, only I can make myself happy, only I can change myself. If someone is not aligned to my values and we do not share common interests then there is a mismatch, better not to be in that relationship. When you are Ok alone you are, when you take responsibility for your own needs then you can be Ok with other people. Happiness comes from within, being in alignment with who you are and finding out who you are sometimes comes from confrontation with others, using them as mirror and separating from them. This tends to happen in the early part of life but sometimes it continues to happen into our adulthood as we join different interest groups and we re-define who we are.