Men or women need care, self care and to feel good about themselves. Women’s new roles can also bring men’s new roles. These need to be negotiated within a partnership. When two people get together it is two different world views that meet up, it is necessary to strip off stereotypes and also to be honest about our own needs. This requires good communication, patience and understanding. Sometimes we are prejudiced without knowing it, we allocate a role to our partner unconsciously and feel let down when they do not fulfil it. Who says a man has to be the breadwinner? Who says a woman has to stay at home and look after the children? I have two brothers that prove this. One of them stays at home and looks after the children, he works 5 days per month, his partner works full time. He is cabin crew. My other brother owns his own company of therapeutic massage. He has four children. He works long hours. His partner stays at home and looks after the children. Two completely different arrangements but they suit both my brothers and their partners, it makes them happy and fulfilled. So let’s cut some slack to men and women and just see them for who they are, unique individuals. Let’s negotiate who we are and who we want to be together. Two is more than one add one.